The Fears of Becoming More Visible

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I struggled for many, many years coming more forward as a feminine leader. Some of the struggle I understood (what will people think of me? can I hold the space? am I ready for this?), and other parts I did not. I kept spinning and spinning in circles – erasing what I knew and all that I had accomplished already in my life. I did not even notice that I was doing this until a very dear friend (my husband) pointed this out to me. And in that pointing out, I began to really dig into what was happening. And it wasn’t pretty.
But then at least I understood.
I was protecting myself from a long line his-tory where women have been abused, raped, beaten, killed and de-legitimized for speaking their truth. And this still happens today. Sooooo, is it any wonder that we women struggle with coming more forward in our leadership? But the time has come for us to heal these wounds together (as women and men) for the greater good of humanity and our planet. Without feminine leadership, we are an aching world soul.
Ladies, we need your wisdom, your voice and your leadership. Wise women friends, do you struggle with becoming more visible and fully owning your authority as a feminine leader? If so, I invite your comments below and to come join me for my FREE 2-Part call series on July 31 & August 5th, “How to Go From Sideline Sitter to Trailblazing Feminine Changemaker.”
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Tabby Biddle is a celebrated women’s leadership coach and well-known voice speaking out for the human rights of women and girls. She is the Co-Director of the Los Angeles Goddess Collective, and is the Creatix of the Goddess Leadership Program, a revolutionary program designed to strengthen and activate the political voices and consciousness of emerging women leaders and amplify their feminine leadership platform for global healing and socio-political change. Over the last seven years, Tabby has written, lectured and given interviews on the topic of the Divine Feminine and the power of a woman’s voice. For inspiration and guidance to strengthen your voice and advance your influence as a feminine leader, visit tabbybiddle.com.

 

Hey Women, You are Powerful and Mighty

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I used to be terrified to use my voice as a public speaker. I worried about whether I would sound stupid. If I would freeze up. If people would “get me” and if I would sound like a crazy lady. You remember those witch burnings, right? Tons of FEAR. FEAR. FEAR. But then my dream of trailblazing social and political change for women and girls became much bigger than my fear. It became more POWERFUL. More MIGHTY. More in synch with who I really am.
Do you dream of a world where all women and girls are empowered and ensured their equal human rights? Do you struggle with some of the same fears I did (and at times, still do)? If so, I invite your comments below and to join me for my FREE 2-part call series,“How to Go From Sideline Sitter to Trailblazing Feminine Changemaker,” on July 31st & August 5th. We are makin’ it happen ladies!
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Tabby Biddle is a celebrated women’s leadership coach and well-known voice speaking out for the human rights of women and girls. She is the Co-Director of the Los Angeles Goddess Collective, and is the Creatix of the Goddess Leadership Program, an revolutionary program designed to strengthen and activate the political voices and consciousness of emerging women leaders and amplify their feminine leadership platform for global healing and socio-political change. Over the last seven years, Tabby has written, lectured and given interviews on the topic of the Divine Feminine and the power of a woman’s voice. For inspiration and guidance to strengthen your voice and advance your influence as a feminine leader, visit tabbybiddle.com.

Get Cozy With Your Inner Feminine Leader

 

Think you don’t have the power to make social and political change? I know so many people right now who are feeling helpless, powerless and desperate in the face of the tragedies in Israel and Gaza, the shooting down of the Malaysian Airline, and the daily acts of gun violence around the world. I know. I feel that sadness too. I feel so sad for the loss of all of those human lives, for the families who lost their loved ones, and for the ongoing pattern of violence and terrorism that plagues our globe. But instead of getting stuck in the depression of this, I believe we need to keep marching forward with LOVE, care for humanity, and the truth of the work that we are being called to do.

 

I know so many women who are being called right now by the Divine Feminine to step forward in their leadership so that they may bring the wisdom of their message into the zeitgeist of our global consciousness. Bit by bit we are doing the healing the planet needs. I know it may not look like that when we see all of this massive tragedy, but it is happening. We can’t give up. We truly do have the power to end war. To end poverty. To end violence. This is not a natural way of living. I believe it is the truth of the Feminine that can help bring balance and peace to our global culture. Ladies, will you join me in stepping off of the sidelines and coming forward as the trailblazing feminine leader you know you are inside?

 

I’m offering a 2-part FREE training series to help you do just that! “How to Go from Sideline Sitter to Trailblazing Feminine Changemaker of the 21st Century.” If you know you are being called to do bigger things in the world, please don’t miss this. It’s all happening on July 31st and August 5th at 12noon PDT/3pm EDT. I hope to see you there!

 

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Tabby Biddle is a celebrated women’s leadership coach and well-known voice speaking out for the human rights of women and girls. She is the Co-Director of the Los Angeles Goddess Collective, and is the Creatix of the Goddess Leadership Program, a revolutionary program designed to strengthen and activate the political voices and consciousness of emerging women leaders and amplify their feminine leadership platform for global healing and socio-political change. Over the last seven years, Tabby has written, lectured and given interviews on the topic of the Divine Feminine and the power of a woman’s voice. For inspiration and guidance to strengthen your voice and advance your influence as a feminine leader, visit tabbybiddle.com.

The Grand Fears of a Tortured Heretic

The Grand Fears of the Tortured Heretic.

This is a big deal for me to talk about. I’ve been kind of putting this off over the last couple of weeks because it has felt scary for me to come forward with this, but as usual, my bigger mission pushes me through the fears so I can be of service to you.

The reason why I want to talk to you about this is because I think this is one of those invisible conversations that needs to come out more in the “seen” world.

I know a lot of women — clients, colleagues, friends and myself included — who have suffered in one way or another from trying to come out or come more forward in their visibility and leadership, but for some reason they keep tripping up on it. They come forward. Then they go back. They come forward. Then they go back. Forward. Back. Forward. Back. Like a little turtle going into her shell for safety and retreat. Sound familiar?

I notice for these women that there can be a lot of confusion around what’s going on, and also massive self-judgment. Why do I keep getting stuck? What is wrong with me? Why is this taking me so long? Why am I so scared to become visible and be that feminine leader I know I am meant to be?

If this is all too familiar to you, I invite you to watch the video up top to learn about the truth of what may actually be going on for you, hear about some of my own experience with this, and learn some ways you can move through this so you can come forward in your leadership with more ease and grace … because we are waiting for you!


Tabby-BiddleTabby Biddle is a celebrated women’s leadership coach and well-known voice speaking out for the human rights of women and girls. She is the Co-Director of the Los Angeles Goddess Collective, and is the Founder & Creatix of the Goddess Leadership Program, a cutting-edge program designed to help emerging women leaders activate their political voice and develop their leadership platform for global healing and socio-political change. Over the last seven years, Tabby has written, lectured and given interviews on the topic of the Divine Feminine and the power of a woman’s voice. For tips, inspiration and guidance to strengthen your voice and advance your influence as a feminine leader, sign up here.

Farm-fed Feminism

Gone are the days when the word feminist equates to “raging woman.” Today, a new kind of feminist is staking her ground and claiming her values — this time by raising her own chickens.

In Peggy Orenstein’s article, The Femivore’s Dilemma, published this past weekend in the New York Times Magazine, she tells us about a group of women (who she calls “Femivores”) who have set up their lifestyles so that they can feed their families clean, flavorful food; reduce their carbon footprints; and produce sustainably instead of consuming rampantly.

These are highly educated stay-at-home moms who left the work force to care for, as Orenstein puts it, “kith and kin.”

“Prior to this, I felt like my choices were either to break the glass ceiling or to accept the gilded cage,” says Shannon Hayes, a grass-fed-livestock farmer in upstate New York and author of “Radical Homemakers.

The self-sufficiency, autonomy and personal fulfillment that come from this lifestyle all sound pretty good. Also, knowing how to feed and clothe yourself and your family regardless of circumstance (think: job loss) could be an even greater safety net than a family with two incomes.

Some thoughts to consider.

You can find Peggy Orenstein’s full article here.

Tabby Biddle, M.S. Ed. is a writer and editor dedicated to amplifying the voices and messages of women. Her work has been featured by The Huffington Post, The Los Angeles Times, USA Today and other national media. She lives in Santa Monica, CA with her husband.

Woman vs. Girl

Written by Tabby Biddle

I’ve noticed lately that I have been calling a number of women … girls. It was my husband actually who first pointed this out to me. One day we were jogging past a woman pushing a double stroller on the sidewalk, and I called back to my husband, “Watch out for the girl.” My husband quickly replied, “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman.”

A week after this incident, I received a Facebook message from a male friend with the subject line: Woman vs. Girl. He (I’m going to call him Dan) wanted to know my opinion about whether it was ever appropriate to address women as “girls.” The irony here is that I had not been in touch with Dan for months, so he would not have known that I was currently in a phase of calling women “girls.” I figured this was life’s way of getting me to look deeper into the issue.

The feminist movement worked hard for women to be called “women,” and never girls. The term “girl” was considered diminutive and disempowering – a term associated with being a victim. The use of “woman,” on the other hand, was associated with confidence and power. In fact, as I understand it from those who were a little older than I was in the 70s, calling a woman a girl was like spitting in her face.

While I understand the argument of the feminist movement, I am wondering if today we actually give something up if we insist on being called a “woman” all of the time? Could we be abandoning our girlish playfulness and sensibilities? Could we be disenfranchising an important part of us that actually holds the key to our ultimate power as women?

The other question that comes to mind is: Is it okay for a woman to call other women girls and not okay for men to do this?

“I see many of my friends and acquaintances still using ‘girl’ when speaking of women, and sometimes when talking to a woman directly. I feel it’s disrespectful … Now, when I catch my friends speaking in this manner, if it’s an appropriate environment, I will call them on it. I try to be humble and considerate with this suggestion,” said Dan in his email.

How we address each other is important. There is no doubt about that.

I think my occasional turn toward calling other women (myself included) “girl” is a way to reclaim some of my own girl power. To me, this means a person who is fun, adventurous, exploratory and bold. A woman to me is strong, confident, responsible, nurturing and global in her thinking. Probably the most important piece to all of this is the integration of girl power with woman power in each woman herself, allowing a dance between the two.

While feminists made “woman” a hard and fast rule, could it be time to reopen the case? Could we be coming to a time when we need to reclaim “girl” to embrace all of the woman that we are?

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Tabby Biddle is a writer and editor living in Santa Monica, CA. She specializes in helping women entrepreneurs and first-time authors get their message out. Additionally, she is the founder of Lotus Blossom Style, a yoga lifestyle company created to support women in their journey of personal transformation.